You should never, ever, ever, use jelly toys.

In my younger days, I bought sex toys pretty injudiciously. Usually based on size, color, how it would look in my collection, and whether or not it would intimidate my ex-husband. My favorite dildo was magenta and pretty and had a suction cup, and it was made out of that squishy jelly mystery rubber that was kind of see through.

I had owned this toy for a few years, and used it plenty. So, imagine my concern when one day I felt burning about 30 seconds into using it... I stopped everything, turned off the porn, and went to ask Google what the heck had just happened.

Google, as usual, quickly stepped up, and let me know that jelly toys contain phthalates. And phthalates break down. They melt, they react with other plastics, and if they are stored touching other plastics both will melt. And if it’s melting plastics, imagine what it can do to your vaginal walls, or your anus. I didn’t have to imagine, I read story after story about the chemical burns people had experienced from using these toys. One woman was hospitalized, another felt that her ability to enjoy sex was permanently affected.

I threw out my favorite dildo, and my other jelly toys (including a brand new set of plugs, yet to be opened) immediately. Hopped on Amazon, and thanked my lucky stars that I had the budget to be able to buy two new dildos and a set of plugs in medical grade silicone.

Phthalates are not the only reason you should avoid jelly toys or mystery material toys. The sex toy industry is hardly regulated. Toys are mass-manufactuered in Asian countries (and some in the USA) without regulation or regard to whether it is safe to put inside your body. Chemicals are one major concern, but so is porosity.

Simply put, you never want to put anything porous inside your body. Definitely not your vagina, and particularly not your anus, because fecal bacteria will make you very, very sick. And porous items will carry that bacteria from one orifice to another, transfer to your hands, etc. And trust me, E. coli is no walk in the park.

I preach often, in my vanilla life as well, to be extremely careful about what you’re putting inside your body. Buy medical grade silicone, borosilicate glass, and stainless steel toys. You get what you pay for with cheap toys.

If you have to use something that you’re unsure about, for the love of Pete, cover it with a condom. Safe sex applies even in solo situations, friends.

If you want to read more about sex toy safety, here are a few fabulous resources:

Dangerous Lilly
Slutty Girl Problems
Super Smash Cache


3 comments


  • SCreames

    I recently realized three of my toys were made of pvc and another was made of jelly. Lucky, I’m depraved and live alone so I have all my toys out on display and just use them as decorations lol. One of them has a handle as the base, so that stays in its the box And looks a bit goofy because of it, but it’s the thought that counts I guess. Wish there was better regulation in the industry :/ thank you for making this post and informing some more people!!


  • Princess

    Thank you so much for this! This is especially helpful to those who love our toys but dont do our research because we assume that they wouldnt put anything unsafe in sex toys!


  • Judi Irby

    Yes! Definitely, agree and wish more people would be open about this. Thanks for sharing ❤️


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