Our Definition

refers to a genderless person, whose identity does not fall anywhere on the “gender spectrum” 

Real Life Examples

Thia does not identify with gender or the gender spectrum. They have always felt a sense of “otherness” and the concept of gender in general feels somewhat alien and confusing. 

For Lapis, gender has always felt like a performance, which has no internal anchor. They are often mistaken for their assigned gender but they do not identify with it.

Common Practices &


Everyone is different! You'll see this repeated throughout our website and glossary. Common practices and experiences for agender people include, but certainly aren't limited to:

  • Use of they/them pronouns 
  • Use of any pronouns 
  • Viewing presentation and dress as separate from the concept of gender. 
  • Presenting in a wide variety of ways.
  • Feelings connected to “otherness” and identifying with related concepts such as aliens or fantasy races who have entirely different cultural mores. 
  • Not identifying with “androgyny” or “middle of the gender spectrum” and feeling uncomfortable in instances where that is the expectation.
  • Only realizing in adulthood that gender is not a performance for all people. 

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Of course we don't speak for everyone! If you feel we are missing additional info, context, facts, history, or data, please email us and let us know!

While we can't promise every suggestion will make it, we'll always be working to keep this glossary thorough and inclusive!