Consensual Non-Consent


Our Definition

a style of BDSM play in which all parties agree to behave in a manner that mimics the behaviour of a forceful or coerced encounter. It is extremely important for everyone involved to have clearly communicated expectations about boundaries, conduct, safewords, and goals before engaging with this type of play.

Real Life Examples

Adam and Eve enjoy CNC with their partner Adonis; Adonis acts like they’re going to kick Adam and Eve out of their shared home, and coerces them into providing sexual favors in order to stay. They talked about this roleplay scenario in advance and agreed not to break character unless someone wanted to take a break or stop entirely by using their safeword “Eden”.

Aurora and Phillip have an agreed-upon practice where Aurora is encouraged to give oral sex to Phillip while he’s sleeping, and Phillip is encouraged to wake up Aurora with oral sex or vaginal intercourse.

Common Practices &


Everyone is different! You'll see this repeated throughout our website and glossary. Common practices and experiences involving CNC include, but certainly aren't limited to:

  • Abuse of Power fantasies & roleplaying
  • Proactive and thorough communication with all involved parties
  • Blackmail fantasies & roleplaying
  • Hypnosis fantasies & roleplaying
  • Use of one or more safewords or actions to indicate different levels of discomfort or geniune non-consent

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