the party who has the authority in a BDSM power exchange dynamic or scene. Often shortened to Dom or Domme.
Often times conflated with Top, which is a separate (though often overlapping) concept.
Real Life Examples
Philbert is naturally inclined towards leadership, and prefers to be given some degree of control or authority in his intimate relationships.
Wanda likes to have full control over what happens during scenes which she participates in.
Everyone is different! You'll see this repeated throughout our website and glossary. Common practices for dominant individuals include, but certainly aren't limited to:
- Having a preferred form of protocol and/or preferred title (i.e. “Madame” “Your Grace” or “The Right Honorable Gentleman”)
- Using a “Dom(me) Voice”
- Keeping a key, often to open a functional lock worn by a partner.
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