Hard Limits

Our Definition

 an activity that a party will not engage with under any circumstances.

Real Life Examples

Public play is a hard limit for Talia, so she makes it clear to her partners that she won’t be attending any play parties.

Ryn’s hard limits include fluid bonding and certain specific types of role play.

Common Practices &


Everyone is different! You'll see this repeated throughout our website and glossary. Common practices and experiences involving hard limits include, but certainly aren't limited to:

  • Stating these limits to one’s partners as one establishes a dynamic. 
  • Occasionally re-evaluating one’s hard limits due to changing needs over time. New things may need to be added, or old things taken off if feelings are different. 
  • Reserving hard limits for things that are actively bad for one’s health and wellbeing. 

Got a beef with our definition?

Of course we don't speak for everyone! If you feel we are missing additional info, context, facts, history, or data, please email us and let us know!

While we can't promise every suggestion will make it, we'll always be working to keep this glossary thorough and inclusive!