Our Definition

an act where one or more parties is treated like a non-sentient entity, usually for erotic purposes. This may include being physically used as an inanimate object such as a piece of furniture. Referring to someone in the 3rd person is a more psychologically focused example. May overlap with dehumanization. 

Real Life Examples

Herbertine uses their partner Tildy as a footstool. 

Jojo likes to be used as an ashtray during scenes. 

Objectification plays a role in Walter’s dollification kink. 

Common Practices &


Everyone is different! You'll see this repeated throughout our website and glossary. Common practices and experiences involving objectification include, but certainly aren't limited to:

  • Use of 3rd person for self, or other depersonalizing language.
  • The objectified party remaining silent/wordless.
  • “Dirty talk” that emphasizes lack-of-agency
  • Use of terms like “fuck toy” etc 

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While we can't promise every suggestion will make it, we'll always be working to keep this glossary thorough and inclusive!