Power Exchange

In-Scene, Limited Control

Our Definition

a type of dynamic where the submissive gives some, but not all, of their authority to their dominant partner(s) on a temporary basis as part of play.

Real Life Examples

Ted is submissive to their partner in-scene but retains control over when and if they will be penetrated.

Yolanda directs scenes for her partner, who is able to make suggestions or ask questions within their dynamic. 

Common Practices

Everyone is different! You'll see this repeated throughout our website and glossary. Power exchange in particular is very complex, which is why we outlined this and three other sometimes-overlapping specific types of power exchange. Common practices for in-scene limited control power exchange dynamics include, but certainly aren't limited to:

  • Overlap and/or fluctuation between different forms of power exchange
  • Communication of specific areas where the submissive party will maintain control. 
  • Communication about specific areas that the power-exchange covers. 
  • Each dynamic having its own expectations made to suit the people involved. (ie, some dominants may encourage suggestions from their submissive and others may expressly forbid suggestions.) 
  • Involving some degree of role-play 
  • Pre-established safe words 

Got a beef with our definition?

Of course we don't speak for everyone! If you feel we are missing additional info, context, facts, history, or data, please email us and let us know!

While we can't promise every suggestion will make it, we'll always be working to keep this glossary thorough and inclusive!