Power Exchange

In-Scene, Total Control

Our Definition

A type of dynamic where the submissive gives up all of their agency to their dominant partner on a temporary basis as part of play. 



Real Life Examples

Theodorakis and Bob have an egalitarian relationship during their day to day life but a Master/Slave dynamic during play. 

Ptolemy enjoys role playing as a captive completely at the will of their jailor. 


Common Practices

Everyone is different! You'll see this repeated throughout our website and glossary. Power exchange in particular is very complex, which is why we outlined this and three other sometimes-overlapping specific types of power exchange. Common practices for in-scene total control power exchange dynamics include, but certainly aren't limited to:

  • Overlap and/or fluctuation between different forms of power exchange
  • Having firmly established trust with one’s scene partner. 
  • Involving some degree of role-play. 
  • The dominant participant having a high degree of understanding of what one’s scene partner likes and dislikes. 
  • A highly developed awareness of non-verbal cues.
  • Pre-established safe words 

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While we can't promise every suggestion will make it, we'll always be working to keep this glossary thorough and inclusive!