Self Owned

Our Definition

the concept of a submissive providing care and structure for themself in the ways that a dominant partner might, in an effort to improve their love of self and overall standards. Sometimes involved self-collaring. 

Real Life Examples

Hyacinth keeps a journal with daily checklists, in order to stay accountable to their goals.

After a breakup with his longtime master, Gino decided to be his own daddy to the fullest; wearing a collar to represent his commitment to his health, wellbeing, and nurturing his inner submissive.

Common Practices &


Everyone is different! You'll see this repeated throughout our website and glossary. Common practices and experiences involving self ownership include, but certainly aren't limited to:

  • Staying accountable to one’s goals through a list, journal, or app.
  • Reflecting on what kind of submissive one would like to be, and what one’s ideal dynamic would look like.
  • Taking initiative in furthering one’s goals
  • Being attentive to one’s own needs
  • Practicing self-care
  • Wearing a collar to represent self-ownership

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Got a beef with our definition?

Of course we don't speak for everyone! If you feel we are missing additional info, context, facts, history, or data, please email us and let us know!

While we can't promise every suggestion will make it, we'll always be working to keep this glossary thorough and inclusive!