Service Oriented

Our Definition

refers to an individual who derives meaning and satisfaction from contributing resources to their partner, and providing for their needs and/or advancing their goals. Can be dominant, submissive, or a switch.



Real Life Examples

Jun loves cooking their partner’s favorite meals, especially when they know their partner has had a difficult day, and that the food served will be a great comfort to their partner.

Mortimer’s submissive partner gets anxious while driving, so Mortimer is glad to offer them rides when he can.



Common Practices

Everyone is different! You'll see this repeated throughout our website and glossary. Common practices of service oriented individuals include, but certainly aren't limited to:
  • Performing tasks, or helping a partner to perform a task that would be hard or stressful for them to do on their own.
  • Providing comfort and reassurance to a partner in various ways. 

Got a beef with our definition?

Of course we don't speak for everyone! If you feel we are missing additional info, context, facts, history, or data, please email us and let us know!


While we can't promise every suggestion will make it, we'll always be working to keep this glossary thorough and inclusive!