Solo Polyamory

Our Definition

a style of polyamory that values personal independence, typically avoiding relationships that include entanglements such as sharing finances, housing, or marriage.

Real Life Examples

Kaia lives alone and does not want a nesting partner. She is fulfilled by her relationships with Ursula and Lari, who are a nesting couple that Kaia visits regularly. 

Nedbert has a long term partner who lives in another city, and also enjoys casually dating others. He avoids entanglements because he wants the freedom to make big decisions based on what would suit him best, without having to factor partners into the equation.

Jan needs lots of time to themself, and living alone is the best way to get that need met. They have a healthy dynamic with their submissive, who respect their need for independence. 

Common Practices &


Everyone is different! You'll see this repeated throughout our website and glossary. Common practices and experiences involving solo polyamory include, but certainly aren't limited to:

  • Communicating one’s needs and boundaries with partners from early on. 
  • Being upfront and honest about not wanting to engage with the “relationship escalator”
  • Having long term partners that live separately, sometimes long-distance.
  • Preferring to keep romances casual. 
  • Valuing personal space and autonomy. 

Got a beef with our definition?

Of course we don't speak for everyone! If you feel we are missing additional info, context, facts, history, or data, please email us and let us know!

While we can't promise every suggestion will make it, we'll always be working to keep this glossary thorough and inclusive!