Two besties
following their creative dreams

Tara & Annie

Restrained Grace is a tiny, artist-run company of two besties + 1 customer service rep. We make femme-focused bondage gear, jewelry, and kinky gifts for Dom(me)s, subs, and everyone in between.

As vocal leftists, we believe that BDSM is for every body, that there's no One True Way to do D/s, kink is custom, self love shouldn't be a radical act, ladies can be Daddy, men can wear fishnets, all bodies are good bodies, and gendered products belong in the 90's.

Shopping with us supports three families directly, instead of adding to a billionaire's Scrooge McDuckian pile of money. And we appreciate you for choosing to shop small!

Best Friends of over 25 years & Owner-Operators of Restrained Grace

Our Tiny Team

(and yes we've all actually been friends since high school)

Owner/Designer

Miss Annie

She/They

Miss Annie is queer, agender, autistic, and disabled. A home chef turned kitchen witch, she spends her free time cooking, gardening, and learning to live slow. She lives in San Diego with her swashbuckling mad scientist of a fiance, two orange cats, and a tiny, aggressive dog.

Owner/Designer

Miss Tara

She/Her

Miss Tara is a lifelong creative and music lover. She spends nearly all her free time chasing around her four year old daughter.

Customer Service

Eric

He/Him

Eric is a lifelong film and music buff who works full time as a film editor and moonlights for us responding to your emails. He spends his free time going to shows and indie films around Los Angeles.

Established - 2016

Restrained Grace was founded in 2016 while Annie & Tara were already running their first accesories brand, Spiffing Jewelry. Annie set aside a desk in a small corner of our massive workshop, ordered some leather and hardware to learn with, and started engraving and hand-stamping kinky things on all the stuff we'd been using for our vanilla brand. The brand took off fast, and quickly became our top priority.

Vintage Restrained Grace

Our Philosophy

We believe the best sex and the healthiest relationships start with a solid foundation of self - starting with self esteem, working toward self love, and integrating self care on a path to healthier sex and relationship choices. Sound like a mouthful?

Basically, we believe the more you love yourself, the easier it is to make healthier choices in dating, relationships, and in the bedroom.

In the words of the incredible Eartha Kitt: "I fall in love with myself, and I want somebody to share it with me. I want someone to share me, with me."

So we've got you covered from self care to aftercare.

Our mission

Our mission is to empower submissive people who don't vibe with traditional aesthetics of BDSM, and maybe some of the traditional limitations of it, too.

Leather doesn't have to be black. Every D/s dynamic is as unique as the couple practicing it. Kink doesn't have to be dark, moody, spooky, or taboo. Hell, you don't even need to have a Dom if you want to practice solo D/s for self care.

Through both our design sensibilities and presentation, we prioritize style and comfort in equal measure.

Our Products

Our product evolves along with us. We're self taught, learn-as-we-go types, and that means we're always developing new ways to improve our products. For example, before we developed our own nickel-free hardware, the only hardware we could get was made for handbags, not for skin-contact. (yikes!)

Deven N.

Hands down the best quality collars I have ever seen!

I have ordered a few collars from RG. It's expensive because I am in Canada, so I pay the currency conversion, plus duty crossing the boarder, works out to roughly double what it would cost to buy one locally - but it is completely worth it. When you want it done right, RG is the way to go. Attention to detail, choice of materials, fit and finish, all outstanding. Thanks again! I have a very happy sub. 😊

Grace R.

Perfect

Absolutely love this collar. Colour is gorgeous, material is so comfy, love how heavy the metal wear is. Sizing is spot on. Thank you so much for creating gorgeous pieces that don't make you feel cheap, but instead make you feel beautiful.

Bianca

Everything I wanted

Ordering my first collar for my self ownership journey, I knew there was no other place to get it than from Restrained Grace! I fell in love with the custom option and the colors and I was able to craft exactly what I wanted. I love my collars and I'm looking forward to ordering my next set.