Restrained Grace's

Modern BDSM Glossary

We've begun building a glossary of terms related to sex positivity, kink, BDSM, social justice, gender, sexuality and healthy relationships.

What you'll find here are our definitions based on widely accepted definitions, along with an update for the 2020s. You won't find aggressive gendering or heteronormativity here. You also won't find a guide telling you how to do BDSM the One True Way.

We believe BDSM is customizable. There's no one size fits all for relationships, sex, or kink. Here you can explore, share, and learn about the many ways these things are practiced.