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The Modern BDSM Glossary

We've begun building a glossary of terms related to sex positivity, kink, BDSM, social justice, gender, sexuality and healthy relationships.
Switch
a person who will engage in dominant and submissive behavior non-exclusively; can be used to refer to someone who feels an intrinsic need to perform both dominance and submission; can be used to refer to someone who typically identifies with one role but under certain circumstances performs the other.
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Orientation
refers to a person’s pattern of experiencing attraction, usually sexual or romantic. Can specify the gender(s) one is attracted to, or the circumstances and degrees to which one experiences attraction.
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BDSM
a compounded acronym which stands for “Bondage and Discipline” (B&D), “Dominance and Submission” (D/s), and “Sadism and Masochism” (S&M).
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Restrained Grace offers handcrafted, high femme bondage gear, day collars, jewelry, and gifts for the BDSM and LGBTQ+ communities.

As vocal leftists, we believe that BDSM is for every body, that there's no One True Way to do D/s, kink is custom, self love shouldn't be a radical act, ladies can be Daddy, men can wear fishnets, all bodies are good bodies, and gendered products belong in the 90's.

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