a portmanteau of “fun” and “punishment” used to refer to consequences given for the sake of mutual enjoyment rather than as a form of discipline meant to discourage a behavior.
- Routines, or a language of call and response developed between partners over time.
- Communicating early on that all parties understand the nature of play that is desired.
Oscar often spanks their partner, Pedro in response to Pedro rolling his eyes. Oscar knows that Pedro enjoys being spanked and the goal is not to discourage future instances of eye rolling.