Design Your Own Bat Wing Locking Mini BDSM Collar Collar Restrained Grace
Design Your Own Bat Wing Locking Mini BDSM Collar Collar Restrained Grace

Design Your Own Bat Wing Locking Mini BDSM Collar

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Leather Colors & Hardware
  • If we have it, it's listed. All colors shown here are what we have available.
  • Snap hook and buckle styles my vary depending on availability.

Our Guarantee

Our handcrafted leather gear is made in-house -literally, out of our homes! If you ever have any concerns about your piece, please contact us, and we'll make it right.


This 3/8" leather collar is a dainty goth dream. It's narrow enough to be worn day-to-day as a choker or day collar, but still has the look and feel of a traditional BDSM collar, and locks with a small, working padlock, plated to match, which is included.

Part of our Halloween Forever collection.

Handmade to order, made to your measurements.
    • Please provide your desired finished length, as this collar is not adjustable.
    • For help with measuring, check out our guide on taking measurements and our soft, flexible tape measure, which is free with any purchase.
Choose Your Leather
    • 3/8" wide leather strap in your choice of a rainbow of colors
    • Black leather bat wings flank the padlock in the front
    • Our calfskin garment leather is double stitched and reinforced, it's as durable as it is comfortable.
    • Vegan color options are marked with a V.
Nickel Free Hardware
    • Priced without a lock as many of our clients already have a collection of padlocks - add a matching lock in your choice of shape as an upgrade.
    • All of our hardware is nickel free, available in silver, gold, rose gold, or iridescent rainbow!
    Care & Cleaning

    Storage, Care, & Cleaning

      All of our pieces are made to last with proper care. 
      To keep your piece looking beautiful, we recommend the following:

      Avoid getting it wet

      • Avoid getting leather wet, as this will warp and discolor the leather and eventually cause the leather to break down.
        • If you do accidentally get your leather wet, dry it off with a towel, and lay it flat to dry thoroughly in a cool, dry place.
        • Do not heat the leather in an attempt to dry it, as this will cause the leather to crack and warp.
      • Water, from a shower, pool, lake, ocean, and even sweat will react with the plating. Rose gold contains copper, and this will cause it to oxidize. Even sterling silver will oxidize black. This goes double for any piece with beads, including pearls and crystals. Water will damage any beading.

      Avoid chemicals

      • Avoid getting sprays of any kind on your leather. Hairspray, perfume or cologne, or any other kinds of chemicals can negatively effect the finish of the leather, and build up over time.
      • Perfumes, body sprays, hair sprays, any kind of spray. Lotions, sunscreen, moisturizers. Anything you put on your body should be applied and dry before your jewelry or gear goes on.

      Don't wear it 24/7

      • ​​​​​​​Plating, unfortunately, has a lifespan, and the more you wear it, the faster it will fade. We recommend solid gold, sterling silver and stainless steel for 24/7 collars.

      Keep it clean

      • Our leather is fully finished and does not require any conditioning, however, you will want to make sure you keep it clean. 
      • To clean your leather, use a damp cloth to gently remove any dirt, oils, or any other substance. Dry with a soft cloth immediately after.
      • Do not use any cleaning products or solvents, as they can damage the color and finish of the leather.
      • ​​​Clean your jewelry and leather gear when you take it off.
        • Simply wipe it down with a soft, dry cloth to remove any residue.
        • For plated jewelry, this requires extra care, as polishing cloths can remove the plating very quickly. 

      Store it safely

      • ​​​​​​​Keep your jewelry wrapped in a soft cloth, bag, or in a drawer.
      • You can hang it from a jewelry organizer, just do your best to keep it clean and untangled.
      • Avoiding exposure to air will prevent silver, copper, and brass from oxidizing.

      Other Common Concerns


      Tarnished Sterling Silver

      • Sterling silver is called '.925 sterling silver' because it contains 92.5% fine silver, the remaining 7.5% is copper, which makes it stronger/harder and also has the unfortunate side-effect of causing it to oxidize when exposed to moisture and air.
      • Oxidization, or tarnish, in sterling silver, is black, so you may think your jewelry is dirty.
        • Often it just needs a buff with a jewelry polishing cloth to look as good as new.
        • We are happy to polish, buff and refinish sterling silver jewelry for a small fee.

      Skin Irritation & Metal Allergies

      • All Restrained Grace-made products are nickel free unless noted otherwise. 
      • Our iridescent rainbow hardware contains chromium.
      • All of our jewelry and hardware is lead and nickel free.
      • Some people occasionally experience a burning, itching and/or redness, usually on the skin beneath jewelry and gear. This condition may be due to the build-up of soaps, lotion, dead skin, etc, or it may be chafing irritation.
        • To avoid skin irritation and to keep your pieces in tip-top-shape, do not wear your pieces when using cleaning products or lotions, and clean your pieces frequently.

      Black Residue

      • Certain types of cosmetics contain chemicals that can abrade your jewelry, causing a sort of metallic dust. This metallic dust often appears black and can cause smudges on your skin or clothing.
        • To avoid this problem, put on your jewelry after applying your cosmetics.
      • Black smudges may also be caused by corrosion due to perspiration, exposure to salts and exposure to hydrogen sulfide gas (present in polluted air, some foodstuffs and industrial chemicals).
        • To avoid these smudges, we recommend that you do not wear your jewelry while handling chemicals or products containing sulfur, and gently polish your jewelry often to remove tarnish.

      Still have questions?


      Customer Reviews

      Based on 2 reviews
      Carter M.
      Her first "dedicated" Little Collar

      This is the first collar I have purchased for my little that is strictly for littlespace use. She absolutely loves it, and we both hope to add a few more little collars to her collection.

      Tara B.
      beautiful collar

      have received so many compliments on this. high quality and love that it comes with two sets of keys.

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