Welcome to our glossary! We believe BDSM is customizable. There's no one size fits all for relationships, sex, or kink. Here you can explore, share, and learn about the many ways these things are practiced.

Welcome to our glossary! We believe BDSM is customizable. There's no one size fits all for relationships, sex, or kink. Here you can explore, share, and learn about the many ways these things are practiced.

Our Definition

The agreement between two parties to engage in an activity. In any scene or sexual encounter, establishing the enthusiasm of everyone involved is required.

Common Practices & Experiences 

Everyone is different! You'll see this repeated throughout our website and glossary. Common practices and experiences involving consent include, but certainly aren't limited to:
  • Asking for permission to touch a person
  • Respecting people’s right to say no, regardless of whether they have said yes in the past 
  • Being aware of signs that someone might feel pressured and may be showing that they are uncomfortable with certain things without explicitly and directly saying no. 
  • Establishing safe words as a tool. 
Sarah asked her girlfriend for a kiss at the beginning of their relationship, and waited for enthusiastic consent before making any physical advances. 

Bertie talks with their partners about limits ahead of time and checks in during scenes to establish and respect consent. 

Anna enthusiastically greets friends with wide open arms and a question; "Would you like a hug?" She's not bothered if they refuse.

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