The Retro Pronoun Necklace in Stainless Steel Necklace Restrained Grace
The Retro Pronoun Necklace in Stainless Steel Necklace Restrained Grace

The Retro Pronoun Necklace in Stainless Steel

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Rose Gold

Pronouns: Choose an option


Wear your pronouns with pride and in style. We've chosen a retro, femme font for this take on an old school name necklace. Whether you're trans, non-binary, intersex, agender, cis, or anywhere in between.

We advocate for everyone to share their pronouns readily to help normalize the practice and ease some of the emotional labor put on trans folks. 

  • Choose your pronouns:
    • They/Them
    • She/Her
    • He/Him
  • Stainless steel
    • Your choice of silver, gold, or rose gold finish.
  • Approx 1 3/4" x 1/2" pendant.
  • 16" chain with a 2" extender for versatility.
  • It's on a dainty steel cable chain, with a lobster clasp.
  • While this can be worn daily, we do not recommend sleeping or bathing in our jewelry pieces.
  • Nickel free.
Care & Cleaning

Storage, Care, & Cleaning

    All of our pieces are made to last with proper care. 
    To keep your piece looking beautiful, we recommend the following:

    Avoid getting it wet

    • Avoid getting leather wet, as this will warp and discolor the leather and eventually cause the leather to break down.
      • If you do accidentally get your leather wet, dry it off with a towel, and lay it flat to dry thoroughly in a cool, dry place.
      • Do not heat the leather in an attempt to dry it, as this will cause the leather to crack and warp.
    • Water, from a shower, pool, lake, ocean, and even sweat will react with the plating. Rose gold contains copper, and this will cause it to oxidize. Even sterling silver will oxidize black. This goes double for any piece with beads, including pearls and crystals. Water will damage any beading.

    Avoid chemicals

    • Avoid getting sprays of any kind on your leather. Hairspray, perfume or cologne, or any other kinds of chemicals can negatively effect the finish of the leather, and build up over time.
    • Perfumes, body sprays, hair sprays, any kind of spray. Lotions, sunscreen, moisturizers. Anything you put on your body should be applied and dry before your jewelry or gear goes on.

    Don't wear it 24/7

    • ​​​​​​​Plating, unfortunately, has a lifespan, and the more you wear it, the faster it will fade. We recommend solid gold, sterling silver and stainless steel for 24/7 collars.

    Keep it clean

    • Our leather is fully finished and does not require any conditioning, however, you will want to make sure you keep it clean. 
    • To clean your leather, use a damp cloth to gently remove any dirt, oils, or any other substance. Dry with a soft cloth immediately after.
    • Do not use any cleaning products or solvents, as they can damage the color and finish of the leather.
    • ​​​Clean your jewelry and leather gear when you take it off.
      • Simply wipe it down with a soft, dry cloth to remove any residue.
      • For plated jewelry, this requires extra care, as polishing cloths can remove the plating very quickly. 

    Store it safely

    • ​​​​​​​Keep your jewelry wrapped in a soft cloth, bag, or in a drawer.
    • You can hang it from a jewelry organizer, just do your best to keep it clean and untangled.
    • Avoiding exposure to air will prevent silver, copper, and brass from oxidizing.

    Other Common Concerns


    Tarnished Sterling Silver

    • Sterling silver is called '.925 sterling silver' because it contains 92.5% fine silver, the remaining 7.5% is copper, which makes it stronger/harder and also has the unfortunate side-effect of causing it to oxidize when exposed to moisture and air.
    • Oxidization, or tarnish, in sterling silver, is black, so you may think your jewelry is dirty.
      • Often it just needs a buff with a jewelry polishing cloth to look as good as new.
      • We are happy to polish, buff and refinish sterling silver jewelry for a small fee.

    Skin Irritation & Metal Allergies

    • All Restrained Grace-made products are nickel free unless noted otherwise. 
    • Our iridescent rainbow hardware contains chromium.
    • All of our jewelry and hardware is lead and nickel free.
    • Some people occasionally experience a burning, itching and/or redness, usually on the skin beneath jewelry and gear. This condition may be due to the build-up of soaps, lotion, dead skin, etc, or it may be chafing irritation.
      • To avoid skin irritation and to keep your pieces in tip-top-shape, do not wear your pieces when using cleaning products or lotions, and clean your pieces frequently.

    Black Residue

    • Certain types of cosmetics contain chemicals that can abrade your jewelry, causing a sort of metallic dust. This metallic dust often appears black and can cause smudges on your skin or clothing.
      • To avoid this problem, put on your jewelry after applying your cosmetics.
    • Black smudges may also be caused by corrosion due to perspiration, exposure to salts and exposure to hydrogen sulfide gas (present in polluted air, some foodstuffs and industrial chemicals).
      • To avoid these smudges, we recommend that you do not wear your jewelry while handling chemicals or products containing sulfur, and gently polish your jewelry often to remove tarnish.

    Still have questions?


    Customer Reviews

    Based on 5 reviews

    An absolutely perfect gift. She absolutely loves it.


    I reallllly love this! I’m really picky with certain styles, and typically go for something minimalist. This is the perfect solution for it! I got it in silver, and after a week I accidentally forgot to take it off before I went into a jacuzzi. It looked liked it tarnished... BUT with some silver polish it came right out and looks brand new! I have to say, I’m VERY impressed with this! love it!


    I absolutely love bar necklace day collar! It's super discreet which is necessary for my work and very comfortable. The font used to stamp my name on the bar is just girly enough. I don't wear it in the shower so can't say how it withstands water. But it is my favorite RG piece so far!

    Absolute Perfection

    My custom day wear is truly perfect. The script is so dainty and feminine you could almost get away with wearing it script side out around the nillas! I can’t wait to order again!

    Love it

    I love my necklace! It’s just beautiful ! Definitely will be buying more items.

    Additional Information

    Silver, Gold, Rose Gold


    They/Them, She/Her, He/Him

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