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Our Definition

refers to an individual who derives meaning and satisfaction from contributing resources to their partner, and providing for their needs and/or advancing their goals. Can be dominant, submissive, or a switch.

Common Practices & Experiences

Everyone is different! You'll see this repeated throughout our website and glossary. Common practices of service oriented individuals include, but certainly aren't limited to:
  • Performing tasks, or helping a partner to perform a task that would be hard or stressful for them to do on their own.
  • Providing comfort and reassurance to a partner in various ways. 

June loves cooking their partner’s favorite meals, especially when they know their partner has had a difficult day, and that the food served will be a great comfort to their partner.

Molly’s submissive partner gets anxious while driving, so Molly is glad to offer them rides when she can.

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Real Life Examples

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If you'd like to be quoted in our glossary, please email us a single paragraph describing the practices you'd like to share, along with whatever name you'd like to be credited with.
If your definition differs from ours, tell us how and why! We want to illustrate as many sides of kink as we can to both normalize kink and the diversity within it.

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