Our Definition

an act where one or more parties is treated like a non-sentient entity, usually for erotic purposes. This may include being physically used as an inanimate object such as a piece of furniture. Referring to someone in the third person is a more psychologically focused example. May overlap with dehumanization.

Common Practices & Experiences 

Everyone is different! You'll see this repeated throughout our website and glossary. Common practices and experiences involving this kink include, but certainly aren't limited to:

  • Use of 3rd person for self, or other depersonalizing language.
  • The objectified party remaining silent/wordless.
  • “Dirty talk” that emphasizes lack-of-agency
  • Use of terms like “fuck toy” etc 

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Real Life Examples

We're gathering short anecdotes on this topic from experienced kinksters!
If you'd like to be quoted in our glossary, please email us a single paragraph describing the practices you'd like to share, along with whatever name you'd like to be credited with.
If your definition differs from ours, tell us how and why! We want to illustrate as many sides of kink as we can to both normalize kink and the diversity within it.

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