Our Definition

an umbrella term which refers to people whose gender identity falls outside of the traditional categories of “man” or “woman”. Often used synonymously with genderqueer. Can include genderfluid, agender, and multi-gender individuals. Frequently shortened to NB or Enby.

Common Practices & Experiences

Everyone is different! You'll see this repeated throughout our website and glossary. Common practices for non-binary individuals include, but certainly aren't limited to
  • Using they/them pronouns
  • Accepting any pronouns 
  • Changing pronouns day-to-day or depending on presentation. 
  • Being hot AF and making people question their sexual orientation 
  • Being a funky bog goblin who is certified as a local cryptid 

Lux sometimes feels like a man, other times like a woman, and other times somewhere in between.

Taylor has always felt “other” in a fundamental sense, no matter how they presented. Discovering their non-binary identity helped them understand themself and feel valid.
Ash has always preferred an androgynous presentation and does not identify with binary gender. 

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Real Life Examples

We're gathering short anecdotes on this topic from experienced kinksters!
If you'd like to be quoted in our glossary, please email us a single paragraph describing the practices you'd like to share, along with whatever name you'd like to be credited with.
If your definition differs from ours, tell us how and why! We want to illustrate as many sides of kink as we can to both normalize kink and the diversity within it.

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