Our Definition

A written-out agreement between parties who are engaged in a power exchange dynamic. May be written after a period of negotiation, it could include expectations regarding structure, guidelines, rules, and/or boundaries within the dynamic.

Common Practices & Experiences

Everyone is different! You'll see this repeated throughout our website and glossary. Common BDSM contract practices include, but certainly aren't limited to
  • Including titles or protocols
  • Listing rules and expectations 
  • Each party agreeing to uphold their end of the contract 

Betty and Ernie drafted a contract together over the course of several weeks. It lays out the specific agreements and expectations of their dynamic. 

Eugenia wrote a 15 bullet point list of rules for her submissive to follow.
Floyd’s contract helps him make his personal limits and boundaries more clear to his partners. 

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Real Life Examples

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If you'd like to be quoted in our glossary, please email us a single paragraph describing the practices you'd like to share, along with whatever name you'd like to be credited with.
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