Our Definition

the consensual psychological demeaning or humiliation of one partner by another. 

Common Practices & Experiences 

Everyone is different! You'll see this repeated throughout our website and glossary. Common practices and experiences involving degradation include, but certainly aren't limited to:
  • Communicating with a partner ahead of time to clarify what kind of language (if any) should be avoided and to establish physical boundaries as well.
  • Use of words like “slut” “whore” or other sexuality-tinged insults.
  • Use of physical positions or actions that reinforce a power-dynamic, such as a top stepping on a bottom.
Olivia likes to verbally insult her partner during play, using terms like “whore” and “idiot”.
Juan likes to play up their partner’s desperation, and use humiliation while degrading their partner, sometimes spitting on them.

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Real Life Examples

We're gathering short anecdotes on this topic from experienced kinksters!
If you'd like to be quoted in our glossary, please email us a single paragraph describing the practices you'd like to share, along with whatever name you'd like to be credited with.
If your definition differs from ours, tell us how and why! We want to illustrate as many sides of kink as we can to both normalize kink and the diversity within it.

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