Common Practices & Experiences
- Feeling uncomfortable with expectation that attraction “should” be automatic or immediate.
- Using the label “Demi” as a more specific label when discussing the nature of how one experiences attraction and using another label (i.e. queer, straight, bi, etc) when speaking in general terms rather than having an involved conversation.
- Knowing one’s own specific criteria or standards for experiencing attraction, and communicating that with people who express and sexual and/or romantic interest.
- Avoiding dating apps and hook ups.
- Tendency to date within one’s established social circle.
- Confusion with, or not relating to, people experiencing sexual attraction to strangers.
Kay has never gotten a crush on a stranger or new acquaintance; they need to know someone very well before they could possibly develop an attraction to them.