Welcome to our glossary! We believe BDSM is customizable. There's no one size fits all for relationships, sex, or kink. Here you can explore, share, and learn about the many ways these things are practiced.

Welcome to our glossary! We believe BDSM is customizable. There's no one size fits all for relationships, sex, or kink. Here you can explore, share, and learn about the many ways these things are practiced.

Our Definition

refers to a wide variety of sexual, physical, or mental kink-related interactions. Many specific types of play have their own entries.

Common Practices

Everyone is different! You'll see this repeated throughout our website and glossary. Play is an umbrella term that refers to a wide variety of activities, many of which are defined in greater detail on their own entries. Common general practices for play include, but certainly aren't limited to:
  • Planning scenes. 
  • Negotiating the nature of the play with people involved. 
  • Having discussions ahead of time about limits 
  • Having pre-established safe words

Rosencrantz never includes sex in his play.

Gildenstern never plays without sex. 

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