Self Ownership

Self Ownership

Our Definition

The concept of a submissive providing care and structure for themself in the ways that a dominant partner might, in an effort to improve their self-worth, self-love, and overall standards. Often involves self-collaring. 

Common Practices & Experiences 

Everyone is different! You'll see this repeated throughout our website and glossary. Common practices and experiences involving self ownership include, but certainly aren't limited to:
  • Staying accountable to one’s goals through a list, journal, or app.
  • Reflecting on what kind of submissive one would like to be, and what one’s ideal dynamic would look like.
  • Taking initiative in furthering one’s goals
  • Being attentive to one’s own needs
  • Practicing self-care
  • Wearing a collar to represent self-ownership

Joy keeps a journal with daily checklists in order to stay accountable to their goals.

After a breakup with her longtime master, Sarina decided to be her own daddy to the fullest; wearing a collar to represent her commitment to herself and nurturing her inner submissive.

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Real Life Examples

We're gathering short anecdotes on this topic from experienced kinksters!
If you'd like to be quoted in our glossary, please email us a single paragraph describing the practices you'd like to share, along with whatever name you'd like to be credited with.
If your definition differs from ours, tell us how and why! We want to illustrate as many sides of kink as we can to both normalize kink and the diversity within it.

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