Stop Light System

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Stop Light System

Stop Light System

Our Definition

a popular and widely recognized set of safe words that follow the convention of traffic lights, with green meaning “go” yellow meaning “caution” and red meaning “stop”

Common Practices & Experiences

Everyone is different! You'll see this repeated throughout our website and glossary. Common practices involving the stoplight system include, but certainly aren't limited to:
  • Use as a sort of default, especially with new play partners. 
  • Wide recognition amongst members of the BDSM community.
  • Using a modified version, as suits one’s needs. 

Juniper uses the stop light system with new or casual partners rather than coming up with unique ones.

Vick prefers the stoplight system to other safe words because they find it simple enough to remember in the moment. 

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