the party who has the authority in a BDSM power exchange dynamic or scene. Often shortened to Dom or Domme.
Often conflated with Top, which is a separate (though often overlapping) concept.
- Having a preferred form of protocol and/or preferred title (i.e. “Madame” “Your Grace” or “The Right Honorable Gentleman”)
- Using a “Dom(me) Voice”
- Keeping a key, often to open a functional lock worn by a partner.
Phil is naturally inclined towards leadership, and prefers to be given some degree of control or authority in his intimate relationships.